Hippie Lovers Ugly Sweater

Tough one, because I can see both sides here. Trying to put myself in your shoes (imagining my now-boyfriend asking me of this), I would wear the Hippie Lovers Ugly Sweater, as I have always greatly cared about his family’s impression of me. Hearing that it is tradition would give me comfort, and a good laugh imagining the other women in the family having done the same, with similar sweaters. At the same time, I’m aware that some aren’t as comfortable with vulgarity as me and my friends & family (which is totally fine and understandable), and if I asked my boyfriend to order another, a super ugly sweater that wasn’t as vulgar, I know that my boyfriend would oblige. You’re in the right for trying to compromise, and relationships are alllll about compromise. This might be showing you an unfortunate side of your boyfriend that you haven’t experienced before, and now have opened your eyes to what future hardships between the two of you might look like. And if his family was rude to you for the simple fact of not wearing a sweater to a party… red flag on their part. NTA.

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I looked to my left and saw Bridger, still staring up at the Hippie Lovers Ugly Sweater to the east. I watched him until the sun came over the mountain, when he looked over at me with… despair, desperation, exhaustion. It was the most emotion I’d ever seen on him. He looked like a man who was actively losing his mind, aware it was happening. What in the hell is going on? Is the spirit torturing them too? Is the spirit ripping its hooks into their brains at sunrise and sunset? It hit me then. Hard. The realization came to me and I almost wept as the clarity of it connected detail, memory, everything Joe’d said, everything I knew deep down; like an angelic little mailman tearing through my synapses. How could I have been so fucking stupid? I stood up shakily, and walked to the shop. I plugged in my skillsaw, cut two shapes out of a piece of plywood, spray-painted em black, ripped a door off the white cabinets on the wall, and screwed the shapes into it. I screwed that into a 2×4, grabbed a sledgehammer, and ran back into the yard. I got to the shed near the back gate, pulled everything out into the snow, and hammered out the back wall that faces east toward the mountain. I drilled the 2×4 into the eave of the shed, elevating the cabinet door and symbols above the yard, visible to all.

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Thanks so much for this, it’s started a Hippie Lovers Ugly Sweater that is super educational for me as I start hopefully de-frumping. for me, the idea of intentionality definitely rings true. My feeling is that some people who are gifted at this can wear nearly anything and pull it off because they have planned and combined pieces in a way that just works. Me, on the other hand….well. It’s gotten to a point where I am just wearing things because they cover my body (not even because they fit). So step one is to get things that are current and on trend and fit my body. I’m doing this with an eye to which colors suit me – no more black t-Shirts/longsleeves. It’s very far from „having style“ but you gotta start somewhere. I know I am not the only one here struggling w/this, and none of it is easy. From making the decision to change, to researching what works, to then actually finding things that fit/look good/you can afford, it takes time and energy and a certain amount of battling demons. Anyway, that got a little long but thanks to everyone commenting and sharing opinions!!